Stanford University. The Best Decision I’ve Ever Made.

If you have ever visited Stanford University, you’re probably aware of the scenic campus and the beautiful weather 330ish days a year… Unfortunately for me, I didn’t get to see that side of the school when I went on my visit. It rained the entire time, and despite the clothes I packed in preparation for “sunny California”, I didn’t see the sun once.

Seven years ago, (man, I feel old saying that) I was trying to decide which college I should attend. Although I rode the pine my junior year of high school, college football coaches were impressed with my size and athleticism enough (see my college recruitment post) to keep me on their radar, and keep an eye out for future film. My senior season went well, and I had scholarship offers from all over the country.

Eventually, I took visits to Arizona State, Nebraska, and Stanford. At the time, both Arizona State and Nebraska had respectable football programs. Stanford stuck out as an opportunity to get a great education, but I wasn’t sure if I could become an NFL-caliber player there, or if I was relegating myself to a world of losing football, hard classes, and pocket protectors (confession: I don’t know if I’ve ever really seen a pocket protector at Stanford or otherwise). So I did what all good little boys do, I listened to my mom, and made a Pros and Cons list.

In High School, around 2007, my list looked something like this:

Stanford (BEFORE attending Stanford)


  • World-Class Education. A diploma from Stanford speaks for itself in any job interview, anywhere.

  • Amazing Weather. Allegedly… from what I saw, the sun may not touch that part of California.

  • If I redshirted, I could get a Master’s Degree during my time there. Foresight… occasionally I’ll have a moment where I’m blessed with it. Unfortunately, my driving record reflects that I don’t always have it.

  • Medical Treatment. Injuries are part of the game. What doctor do you want doing your surgery?[/ezcol_1half]


  • Unknown, Unproven Coaches. Jim Harbaugh (Head Coach), David Shaw (Offensive Coordinator), and Shannon Turley (Strength and Conditioning Coach) had just been hired from the University of San Diego.

  • Hard Classes. How do I keep up with these smart kids?

  • Far from Home. I grew up in Illinois. It’s a long trip to get back home.

  • New people. I didn’t know anyone on the team. There were 2 guys from Illinois, but I didn’t meet them until I started Freshman year.

  • No Fun. Nerds don’t like to go out and have fun.

  • I won’t be extra popular because I’m on a sports team like at other schools.

  • The jerseys aren’t as outrageous as some other places.[/ezcol_1half_end]

I ultimately chose Stanford (after I thankfully got accepted), and looking back, it was a much more difficult decision than it should have been. It was hard, in part, because I started to believe the bullshit that coaches were feeding me about how I had NFL potential, and they could definitely get me there. It may have been true, but for all the kids that are told that, only a small percentage are lucky (football is an especially dangerous sport, and rarely does someone go through their college career without injury) and skilled enough to play in the NFL.  According to the NCAA, only .08% of high school players make it to the NFL, and only 1.7% of college football players get to the NFL.

Reflecting on my time at Stanford, I wanted to rewrite my Pros and Cons list, so that if I could talk to my high school self, I could truly explain how amazing Stanford is, and how it will change your life.

Dear Young Coby,

DON’T MISS THIS OPPORTUNITY. I wouldn’t be here typing this, and you wouldn’t be there reading it, had I not made the best decision of my life. I’m sure you’re probably skeptical, and going to be a smart young man by writing out a pro’s and con’s list, so let me help you out. I’ll help you make one based on what I know after going to Stanford.

Stanford (AFTER attending Stanford)

[ezcol_1half](What I thought were) Pros

  • World-Class Education. A diploma from Stanford speaks for itself in any job interview, anywhere. After football, what happens if I get injured and can never play football again? This is the thought I couldn’t shake when I ultimately decided on Stanford. IF I WENT SOMEWHERE ELSE AND GOT TO THE NFL, GREAT, BUT I’LL STILL LIKELY NEED A JOB AFTERWARD. IF I DON’T GO TO THE NFL, THEN I NEED TO GET A JOB. WOULD I RATHER WALK INTO AN INTERVIEW WITH A STANFORD DIPLOMA OR ONE FROM SOMEWHERE ELSE?

  • Amazing Weather. Except for a few weeks of rain, I don’t know of a place with better weather in the world. Seriously.

  • If I redshirted, I could get a Master’s Degree during my time there. I redshirted, and was able to finish my career with both an Undergraduate and Master’s degree from Stanford. If football ended during my time at Stanford, I could have gotten a great job, in a wide variety of fields, very quickly, because of the people I met and the friends I made. If my NFL career ends tomorrow, I should be able to find a high quality job.

  • Medical Treatment. Injuries are part of the game. What doctor do you want doing your surgery? I had one surgery while at Stanford, and I had a bunch of minor injuries. All of which healed well thanks to the great medical attention I received while I was there.[/ezcol_1half]

[ezcol_1half_end](What I thought were) Cons

  • Unproven Coach? David Shaw is one of the best coaches I’ve ever had. He is intelligent, a great motivator, and pushed me to be the best player I could be. Coach Shaw understands that every player is different, and therefore might require a different style of coaching in order to make that player the best he can be. Today, I admire him as a Coach, as a man, and as a friend. STANFORD HAS BEEN TO FOUR STRAIGHT BCS BOWL GAMES. YOU WANT TO BE SEEN BY NFL SCOUTS? EVERY. SINGLE. NFL. TEAM. WAS AT MY STANFORD PRO-DAY. Worried about a Coach Shaw leaving? You shouldn’t be. His name was thrown around for multiple NFL teams this year and will for many years to come, but Stanford is his dream job. He went to Stanford, and understands how special it is.

  • How about the Strength and Conditioning coaching though? STANFORD HAS THE BEST STRENGTH AND CONDITIONING PROGRAM IN ALL OF COLLEGE FOOTBALL, AND PROBABLY MOST OF THE NFL. You want to be a great football player? You can’t be a great player if you’re hurt. If a coach starts bragging to you about the weight room numbers his guys put up, maybe you should ask him how many of those guys made it through the season without missing games or a season-ending injury. Stanford’s Strength and Conditioning program has proven that it helps prevent injury. Can any other school say that? There is a reason an NFL locker room was built in the new Arrillaga Family Sports Center football addition. NFL players come back to train with Shannon Turley.

  • Hard Classes? It’s harder to get into Stanford than to stay in Stanford. After that, they want you to succeed (graduation rates make them look good after all), so they are going to provide as much or as little help as you need.

  • Far from Home? Yes, you will likely be far from home, but so is everyone else. In any Division 1 football program, it’s going to be difficult to find time to go home, whether you live an hour drive or a four hour flight.

  • New people? This shouldn’t have been a con from the start. I didn’t know it at the time, but the biggest benefit of going to Stanford is the opportunity to meet, befriend, and network with the people there. Not only did I make friendships that will last a lifetime, but I also got to meet some of the world’s most powerful men and women. Imagine a world where CEO’s, professional athletes, political leaders, and billionaires want to meet you… as a Stanford Football player, that becomes a reality, and your friends, dorm mates, and classmates will likely make up the next generation of these positions.

  • No Fun? There are about a billion clubs and groups at Stanford, if you can’t find anything you like in those, well then you can just create your own. I think you would be surprised at how many opportunities there are to go out at night, whether it is to a frat party, a party in your dorm, or going to San Francisco, there are more than enough opportunities to have fun. “Exotic Erotic” is one party on campus that gets a lot of attention for limiting items of clothing to one item for men and two for women. Let’s just say it gets “creative”.


  • Freaking Cool Jerseys and FREE athletic gear. STANFORD HAS THE SECOND LARGEST NIKE CONTRACT IN THE NATION. Phil Knight (Co-Founder and Chairman of Nike, Inc.) attended business school at the Stanford Graduate School of Business.[/ezcol_1half_end]

I realize that every person has their own individual needs and wants, and in some rare cases, Stanford may not be the right choice for them, but if you have the opportunity to attend Stanford University, please do it. It is literally the opportunity of a lifetime. Attending Stanford University, and playing for the Cardinal is not a 4 year decision, it is a LIFETIME decision.

My Connection to the Patriots

Ok Colts fans, I know it sounds terrible, but before you panic, please read the rest of the story…

In last Saturday’s loss to the Patriots, I was facing a familiar foe… I just didn’t know it.

To understand what I mean, we’ll have to go back in time, so get ready for a high school flashback (just be thankful I went in the 90’s). For high school, I attended Joliet Catholic Academy, and as was customary, I lifted weights at a local gym with the rest of my high school teammates. This place was not open to the public: partially because it was basically a warehouse with old weights in it, partially because it wouldn’t live up to the cleanliness standards of your average spandex-wearing gym goer, and mostly because the gym’s primary focus was our football team.

Anyway, JCA football players weren’t the only gyms goers there. We had power lifters, police officers (the owner was both), some other local high school players, and occasionally some older college and even pro players that would come back to train with us in their off-season. One NFL guy would come in and run and lift with us, not talk much, but always seemed friendly. I didn’t think much of it, and kind of forgot about it… UNTIL THIS PAST SATURDAY.

With an 8:30pm game, there isn’t much to do but eat food and hang out in your hotel room until you leave for the stadium. During this time, I got a text from my friend back home asking me “Who is Rob?” and sent me a picture of a comment from my Facebook page. The owner of that gym I worked out at during high school had written on my wall, “Good luck today Colby say hi to Rob after the game . Two guys from Rudy’s Gym.” (Yes, he misspells my name. Sorry Rudy, it’s true.) I racked my brain trying to think of who he could be referring to, but couldn’t think of anyone. So I pulled out my handy-dandy smartphone and looked up the Patriots roster. Thankfully Rob Ninkovich’s headshot was taken before his impressive beard was grown out, because I wouldn’t have recognized him.

So, I trained with the guy I was going to go up against every play during the game, hadn’t seen him in six or seven years, and didn’t even know his name until I had an epiphany hours before the game. I was hoping to say hello during pregame warm-ups, but he wasn’t out on the field at all (actually, very few Patriots were interestingly). So the game began, with Rob and I looking right at each other before the play and… not saying a word the entire game. Once the game starts you tend to forget cute stories like this for fear of losing focus for just an instant and getting clobbered by one of the many large human beings running at full speed all around you.

After the game we shook hands, and I told him my story. I guess Rob didn’t find my story funny or Coach Belicheck has rubbed off on him, because he barely cracked a smile. Either way, I wished him luck and good health for the duration of the season, and I ran back to our locker room.

Life’s Timelines

Before each game at Stanford, while the team was in the hotel, we would invite a supporter of the program to come speak, and share some “wise words”. These honorary captains spoke on a wide variety of topics: from how Stanford Football impacts their life, how their job relates to football, or simply how excited they are to be leading us onto the field the next day.

The list of names that have taken on this role is extremely impressive, but isn’t the point of this post. Rather, I wanted to relay one message that has stuck with me because I felt it was thought-provoking and profound. This won’t be a direct transcription of what was said, and it likely won’t be as good, but I’ll try to relay the message as well as I can.

Life’s timelines change as we age. When we are young, the accomplishments that we relish most can be completed in a matter of minutes. As we grow older the timeframes to see the results of our work increase.As a child, a crayon drawing of stick figures could be the peak of achievement for the year. Schoolwork and tests offer great feedback loop opportunities as we grow. Once school is finished though, the length of time to learn if we have met our goals extends significantly. Law cases take months, Doctors’ patients heal over time, construction of buildings don’t happen overnight (unless you prefabricate everything. smartass… Even then, the results become far less decisive.

The moral of this speech was to point out how fortunate athletes are to have the opportunity to know for certain if their efforts in preparation for their challenge were good enough to beat your opponent and win. In sports you either win or you lose (and in some weird sports you tie, but that should be abolished) at the end of the game. While there are occasional elements of chance and luck that factor into a victory (or loss), by and large the better team, the team that worked harder, the smarter team, the more efficient team, etc. wins. We should be thankful that we get immediate feedback on what we need to improve upon, and how we can get better. Most jobs don’t easily/regularly allow for this quick and decisive feedback, and more than likely, our “after-sports” jobs won’t be so accommodating.

Note: I realize there are exceptions to these points, and if you’re like me, you were making a mental note of every possible job that could prove the opposite of what I just said. Thanks for that. This post was intended to be thought-provoking and hopefully start a meaningful conversation, not make an argument.